An angry, out-of-control child is not a pretty sight - to say the least. Whether you have a younger child throwing a temper tantrum or a teenager throwing an anger outburst, the best way to handle it is without anger and without submission.Here are a few tips for handling anger outbursts when they occur and how to prevent future tantrums;
First and foremost, do not give in. Giving in reinforces the behavior and teaches the child to YELL REAL LOUD if they want something badly enough.
Remain calm and do not show anger. You lose the opportunity to model how to deal with upsetting feelings if you respond to the outburst with strong emotion, yelling or spanking.
Don't try to reason with your child during the outburst. They are beyond reason during an outburst.
Don't threaten punishment. Your child is not bad. He just needs help learning mature ways of handling frustration.
Ignore the tantrum until it has run its course. How you ignore the tantrum is a personal choice. Some parents can stand by and say nothing. Others want to remove themselves or request that their child go to another room to cool down.
Don't let the child physically harm himself or anyone else, or destroy his or others' property. If your child is small enough, hold him firmly until he settles down. If the child is too large to gently restrain, leave the room until he gains composer.
Remain calm and do not show anger. You lose the opportunity to model how to deal with upsetting feelings if you respond to the outburst with strong emotion, yelling or spanking.
Don't try to reason with your child during the outburst. They are beyond reason during an outburst.
Don't threaten punishment. Your child is not bad. He just needs help learning mature ways of handling frustration.
Ignore the tantrum until it has run its course. How you ignore the tantrum is a personal choice. Some parents can stand by and say nothing. Others want to remove themselves or request that their child go to another room to cool down.
Don't let the child physically harm himself or anyone else, or destroy his or others' property. If your child is small enough, hold him firmly until he settles down. If the child is too large to gently restrain, leave the room until he gains composer.
Check in - same time, same place - next week for more on anger outbursts. Until, aim for a peaceful week!
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